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The Big Bad Boss

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Angry Boss

Every month I like to open up my blog to comments from my readers. This month I wanted to ask you how you deal with a difficult boss.

When I was younger I had several negative experiences with supervisors and managers, and it was always tricky to know how to respond to seemingly unjust situations.

What have you done when you have ongoing conflict with a superior?

5 Responses to “The Big Bad Boss”
  1. Francy says:

    Having a bad boss is the worst. But I’ve learned to just get through it so that I can leave a company with a decent recommendation. Though I’ve had some bosses that are so horrible that I wouldn’t trust them to give me a good recommendation, even though I worked hard!

  2. James says:

    This is a really tough one.
    I used to have a very manipulative and controlling boss.
    He was also an unbearable micromanager.

    I eventually realized that he was really just very insecure. I tried to put him at ease by communicating every little detail – but that came to feel like a job in and of itself. Plus, it wasn’t enough to fix his trust issues.

    It was a bad enough experience that I eventually left to be a freelancer – so I’d never have a bad boss again!
    Of course being a freelancer has it’s own issues, but that’s another story…

  3. Andrew O. says:

    Anytime I have had a clear conflict with a supervisor I have quickly but professionally left that company. In my experience going above them to their superior, or to Human Resources, results in a band-aid solution, and even more animosity when your boss hears what you did. Although complaints to Human Resources are believed to be anonymous, in my experience they are not. The best bet is just to leave and find a new place to work, unless you think your conflict has an actual permanent resolution.

  4. Erin L. says:

    Learning the hard way, I finally figured out that sometimes it is just time to go. This is not 1950–we’re allowed to find situations and jobs that fit us well. I stayed too long many times hoping that if I just voiced my concerns in the right way things would change. Instead I just felt like a dissatisfied complainer. I suppose the truth is that the only thing we can change at work (in life?) is ourselves.

  5. Yvette says:

    I finally understood the definition of narcissism with a boss I had for 6 years. He wasn’t a bully, in fact, he was endlessly kind-hearted and forgiving. But he couldn’t remember who deserved credit for the work that was being done, so he often just took it himself. I had some really great conversations with him about our work relationship which made me feel heard but which he forgot within minutes. Now that I’ve been in a different job for several years, I see that my frustration was caused by my own belief that it should be a different way. The work was fun, he stayed off my back, and in the end, I knew who deserved the credit. (Now who’s narcissistic!)